How a Fire Is Like A Relationship
The first push, the effort of the spark. It used to be a great physical effort to start a fire. That first flame that starts the fire, being ready with the materials to kindle and keep it going. You need to know what special things, given the enviroment, that it will take to start that spark and burn; it definatly takes a while to learn this with many failed attempts. What to say to get even the smallest amount of fire to ignite. What is the atmosphere of the relationship, in business or romance. What must be considered before we initiate the effort of trying to start anything? What components do you need to get a flame that will hold when you add more kindle?
The flame usualy needs some air to ger through the smoky beginning. Some talk to get the fire to take.
Often a fire will die at this point and you need to start over with some new materiral.
Say it take, on the first date, when the flame is small you dont buy the person a house just as you dont start a fire with a big log. Use kindle to build to something that will take on a big log. You cant start a fire by throwing big log on a small amount of burning kindle.
Air on the fire can be necessary, but not always. Sometimes the enviroment helps you out just enough, or too much and again, the flame is extinguished. Comunication, calling, the news, other competion. Especially for a small fire. You have to know just how much air you may have to add at the beginning; too much can blow out the potential or creat a hot fire that just burns out too fast without tangible gestures or kindle.
The gifts must be interspersed with some communication or you get a smoky anoying smoulder. Your fire can't have lumped together kindle or wood. Air must past between the fuel.
When the relationship is hot but you neglect to throw some fuel or tangible goods on the fire (talking wont keep the fire going) it turns to a bed of hot coals that needs a little more wood (a date?) and a little communication (air) to get going again.
The best fires are the ones you use as tools - the small flames to warm a drink, melt snow, cook a small bit of meat, that you throw just the right amount of kindle on; just enough heat to get the job done. But if you are looking to heat a home for a while, make a relationship that lasts and one which air finds its own way to the flame, you need to invest big logs. Logs have a tangible earth element to them. If you build a fire on dry vegetable mater without rocks and a clay base, the fire can easily catch on many things and spread rapidly, get out of control and destroy many things; so, if you don't have a structure to your relationship, controle of the passion, you can easily use up too much fuel or money and destroy the life around you, using all your resources.
The best fires are the ones you use as tools - the small flames to warm a drink, melt snow, cook a small bit of meat, that you throw just the right amount of kindle on; just enough heat to get the job done. But if you are looking to heat a home for a while, make a relationship that lasts and one which air finds its own way to the flame, you need to invest big logs. Logs have a tangible earth element to them. If you build a fire on dry vegetable mater without rocks and a clay base, the fire can easily catch on many things and spread rapidly, get out of control and destroy many things; so, if you don't have a structure to your relationship, controle of the passion, you can easily use up too much fuel or money and destroy the life around you, using all your resources.
Big logs will keep a fire going and provide heat, but its the little kindle and twigs that you add to this, the little gifts and gestures that really get a fire hot and blazing; the blaze is short and getting kiddle takes time; that is when the big logs will have to just keep the realationship coazy.
The more fires you start, the better you become at it. You get faster, more efficent, more in control and versed in knowing what elements to add at what time, for the exact burn you are after. You become more versatile in how to start a reliable fire and the elements required.
Grease can also keep a fire, but you still need a wick or a touch of reality. The grease is humor, understanding, maybe. All the humor and great chemistry means nothing if there is no financial or tangible foundation on which to keep the fire burning. You can have a lot of heat and fire with a large "wick", but you also need the cominicaton and fun of the air and grease to support the flame.
Grease can also keep a fire, but you still need a wick or a touch of reality. The grease is humor, understanding, maybe. All the humor and great chemistry means nothing if there is no financial or tangible foundation on which to keep the fire burning. You can have a lot of heat and fire with a large "wick", but you also need the cominicaton and fun of the air and grease to support the flame.
Water on everything can make it difficult if not impossible to start a fire; majic, astrology, and the need to heal everything just douses a flame. When the environment is full of emotions, we may say the same.
When the fire is over it leaves nothing but ashes and potential, but it will take a long time for life to begin again, and it will be better than before.
