How a Fire Is Like A Relationship

The first risk and spark - anything involves risk. I use to be that great physical effort was required to start a fire. That first flame that starts the fire (unspoken passion?) and being willing, driven and ready with the materials to kindle and keep it going. Materials you should find in your area. You need to know what it takes to start that spark. What magic needs to be used? How to look? What to say to get even the smallest amount of fire to ignite. What is the atmosphere of the relationship, in business or romance. What must be considered before we initiate the effort of trying to start anything? What components do you need to get a flame that will hold when you add more kindle? 

This flame usualy needs some air to ger through the smoky beginning. Some talk to get the fire to take.

Then, on the first date, when the flame may be small, you dont buy the person a house just as you dont start a fire with a big log. Use kindling to build to something that will take on a big log. You cant start a fire by throwing a big log on a small amount of burning kindle. 

Air or blowing on the fire is necessary, just as communication or calling. Especially for a small fire. You have to know just how much air to add at the beginning; too much can blow out the potential and creat a hot fire that just burns out too fast.

When the relationship is hot but you neglect to throw some fuel or tangible goods on the fire (talking wont keep the fire going) it turns to a bed of hot coals that needs a little more wood (but a date?) and a little communication (air) to get going again. 

The best fires are the ones you use as tools - the small flames to warm a drink, melt snow, cook a small bit of meat, that you throw just the right amount of kindle on; just enough heat to get the job done. But if you are looking to heat a home for a while, make a relationship that lasts and one which air finds its own way to the flame, you need to invest big logs.

The more fires you start, the better you become at it. You get faster, more efficent, more in control and versed in knowing what elements to add at what time, for the exact burn you are after. You become more versatile in how to start a reliable fire and the elements required.

Grease can also keep a fire, but you still need a wick or a touch of reality. The grease is humor, understanding, maybe. All the humor and great chemistry means nothing if there is no financial or tangible foundation on which to keep the fire burning. You can have a lot of heat and fire with a large "wick", but you also need the cominicaton and fun of the air and grease to support the flame.

Water on everything can make it difficult if not impossible to start a fire; majic and the need to heal everything just douses a flame. When the environment is full of emotions, we may say the same. 

But I really dont know anything about relationships.